During a recent family get-together, one of my sisters offered some sage advice to our young nieces and nephews on the importance of family. La Familia! The family connection and extension…biological or not… which plays an important function in defining our personalities, values, and place in this universe!
As we all participate in a variety of family roles, it amazes me how each specific role continues to evolve, change, and expand throughout our lifetime. As an example, my very first relationships to my family were: child, daughter, granddaughter, niece, and sibling. Today, in addition to these relationships, I am an adult, mother/parent, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, sister-in-law, wife, aunt, grandmother/abuela, great aunt, cousin and friend.
Not only do we add to these types of relationships, but the relationship itself develops into a more complicated two-sided give-and-take. What do I mean? Well…as a baby, I took more than I could give. While I may have given some small smiles and coos, I depended on my parents (as all babies do) for shelter, warmth, food, and love; the essentials for survival. Today, as the role of daughter, I can give an ear for listening, advice for the taking, dinners for the eating, drives to the doctors, excursions for the fun…in fact, I can even give knitting lessons to my mom. It evolves. We grow.
And what about those that choose to become a part of the family….the in-laws. Isn’t it a two-way street? Do we not volunteer to become a part of our spouse’s family as well, thereby expanding the family in ways never imagined?
As we all continue to grow, love, and celebrate those new to the family or the legacies of those no longer with us, be mindful that whether in Ohio or Virginia/Maryland, la familia is truly what matters!
Congratulations to the bride and groom-to-be, Laura and Bob!
A mother and her daughter
A husband and his wife
A grandfather and his granddaughter
Siblings
A Bride and Groom-to-be!